feeling anger

Why didn’t anyone tell me that anger is a valid way to express feelings? That it could be anger and safe at the same time? Why am I 35 and just learning this now? It feels like I have paused at this place in my healing, unable to continue on until I let myself genuinelyContinue reading “feeling anger”

struggling

Recently the people closest to me have been having to remind me that my feelings are valid, that I’m not alone in this struggle, they encourage me to stay fierce and show up for myself. I mean it when I say I have the most incredible people in my life. Because lately, it’s definitely beenContinue reading “struggling”

rest

My mental health has been significantly more stabilized this year, but it’s still a struggle. I am still going through the cycle of grief with my divorce, both of my kid’s experiencing big emotions because of their world changing, and my eating disorder has been flairing up. All of these things take up a lotContinue reading “rest”

Ketamine

Today I went from sobbing in bed in the afternoon, to swinging on our play-set with Tucker, and having a dance party with the girls in the evening. Why? Ketamine infusions. It’s more than that— it’s also weekly therapy, medication, support and encouragement from others, better sleep hygiene, and improving my relationship with food. ButContinue reading “Ketamine”

puppy

We adopted a puppy from Healing Hearts Rescue. Her name is Ginny and she’s 8 weeks old. We brought her home on Saturday and I’ve noticed a significant boost from my depression. I know that playing with a dog can elevate levels of serotonin and dopamine which make us happier and more calm. The nameContinue reading “puppy”

Know My Name

I preordered this book in 2019, and it’s been sitting on my shelf unread until this week. This memoir by Chanel Miller is a tough book to be motivated to pick up. Her story of being raped by Brock Turner, the brutal aftermath that victims are put through, the legal process, the deep violation.. it’sContinue reading “Know My Name”

mental health awareness month

I’ve been struggling with writing a blog post about mental health awareness month because of my mental illness… oh the irony. Mental health matters, (make it a priority). Mental illness is invisible, (but it’s real). Ask for help, (it shows strength). You can heal from your trauma, (and you deserve to heal). Normalize taking medication,Continue reading “mental health awareness month”

PHQ-9

This was taken one year ago today. It had been almost 4 months since I was hospitalized, I found a great new therapist, and changed my medications. I remember this day well; I had the lowest PHQ-9 score in over a year, and I felt hopeful that I was getting better. And then COVID hit,Continue reading “PHQ-9”

disabilities

It’s been a tough few days for my daughter. Wren has to wear braces due to her cerebral palsy and they have been giving her sores, so she hasn’t been wearing them since Friday. Yesterday she was crying at the playground out of frustration because she was unable keep up with her siblings who wereContinue reading “disabilities”

crashing hard

For minutes I starred at my reflection in the mirror, watching tears roll down my face. I’m begging myself to be strong and just hold on. Thoughts of self harm have been popping in and out of my thoughts all day. Even suicidal ideation returned after being absent for a couple months. Trying to findContinue reading “crashing hard”

rebuild

When I started getting ketamine infusions last fall, I was barely hanging onto my life. There were days when I needed help getting dressed before I could leave the house. During the infusions, either Jim or Woody would sit next to me, and I’d hold their hand while I dissociated for an hour. Every weekContinue reading “rebuild”

floor

Woody asked me, “why are you laying on the floor?” I think I dissociated, I don’t remember how I got there. I’ve been fighting a war with my head + heart. And I think the weight of it all has caused me to collapse, again. I was healing, getting stronger. Now I feel like I’mContinue reading “floor”

tw: sexual assault

There has been a lot of talk about rape culture in my social media feeds and in the news this week. This month marks 14 years since I was raped. It wasn’t the first time I’ve been sexually assaulted, but it was the most scarring and it shook up my world terribly. His actions haveContinue reading “tw: sexual assault”

Trauma

I’ve cried so much today. This afternoon I had a panic attack and hid in my closet. My heart was beating rapidly, I couldn’t catch my breath, I was shaking and sweating. I alternated between feeling afraid, and feeling like I was detached from my body and watching it happen to me. I don’t chooseContinue reading “Trauma”

Trigger warning: sexual assault

Last week in therapy, I created a map with at least 10 separate experiences of sexual trauma. I was told at a young age that my dad was a rapist. I learned that sex was violent before it was beautiful. At 21, I was raped by someone I didn’t know. The cop first asked meContinue reading “Trigger warning: sexual assault”

Because you’re always sad?

One night this week during dinner, we were talking about how my three-year-old son Tucker is a lot like me (because he is sensitive and empathetic), and my 6 year old daughter said, “because you’re always sad?” It took my breath away. I knew that this was a teachable moment and my reaction was importantContinue reading “Because you’re always sad?”

worth celebrating

I’m not big on New Years resolutions, especially because the majority of them revolve around diet culture, and that’s really triggering for me. But, there is satisfaction to be found in saying, “I fucking survived 2020” I didn’t know if I could make it, but I did. Even if I was dragging, crying and screaming…Continue reading “worth celebrating”